Comments on: Super Single

By: Marisa

Marisa — Sat, 22 Oct 2005 02:53:00 +0000

Thank you! When I read that line about Ann Taylor, I had the same reaction. I am not a fan of twinsets, Ann Taylor or other.

By: craige

craige — Sat, 22 Oct 2005 00:15:00 +0000

Maybe the writer of that article is not getting any dates because men are put off by all her Ann Taylor twinsets?

By: SusieQ

SusieQ — Thu, 20 Oct 2005 17:18:00 +0000

Just found out that my ex boyfriend (8 years and an engagement ring together) of 1 yr not only has a girlfriend but that they are engaged and possibly living together. I know it has no impact on my life now, but, man, that stings. Sure, he was a jerk the last 2 years we were together, and he stopped being the guy I fell in love with after 5 years together, but I still wanted him to be miserable for a while without me. I have my own little mantra telling me that I’m so much happier now than I was a year ago, and that at least I don’t have that bulls**t dragging me down anymore, and that being single is fun and it’s great to be truly selfish for the first time in a long time. But damn if it doesn’t get lonely sometimes.

PS Thad, great article.

By: beth

beth — Tue, 18 Oct 2005 18:36:00 +0000

Are you going to give the dry cleaners a photo? I think you should!

(Not to attract a man, of course… though I do smell a romantic comedy here…)

By: Marisa

Marisa — Tue, 18 Oct 2005 05:11:00 +0000

Sadly, I’ve done internet dating sites. I did Match (actually how I met the last boyfriend), Craigslist (my friend Cindy and I were both using CL during this phase and the duplication we experienced caused me to develop the theory that there are never really more than five single men dating in the city of Philadelphia at any one time. Or at least on CL. I would email her saying I was talking to a really nice guy, give her his name, and she would say “he works at Citizens Bank and lives with his parents in New Jersey.” And she’d be right), I spent some time on JDate (hey, I’m half Jewish), did a stint on Philly Mag and there’s one last one I’m not remembering.

The statement about the Conga Line gave me a giggle and a very detailed mental image.

By: Thad

Thad — Tue, 18 Oct 2005 04:37:00 +0000

Which makes me think, perhaps I should start going to online dating sites?

You could try it. I tried Yahoo Personals. In retrospect, it was kind of a waste of time, but at least I tried it. There are typically more guys than girls on these things, so I think most of the challenge for a woman on a dating site is to avoid the excessively weird/ skeezy/ fugly guys.

God, I’d love that “GSW Conga Line” to come sashaying through my high-tech company cube. Even if nothing came of it, it would at least mix things up! Great mental image. heh…

By: Luna

Luna — Tue, 18 Oct 2005 03:07:00 +0000

Marisa, it is definitely that (seeing everyone around you getting married, settling down and having children) that drives this urge…i guess it’s human nature to try and continue the cycle.

As happy as I love being single (I tend to be the independent type) there are times when a boyfriend would be wonderful to have. Hey, I am helpless when opening jars of salsa!

Thad, great article! Which makes me think, perhaps I should start going to online dating sites?

By: Thad

Thad — Tue, 18 Oct 2005 02:33:00 +0000

“I have a girlfriend now.”

I think Albert’s right… Still, that’s awfully defensive on his part. I think if I saw the girl I went on a date with a few months ago and then never heard from again, I’d probably just pretend I don’t know her. I don’t know if that’s immature or what… and I guess I don’t care.
Speaking as a single guy in his late 20s, it’s really tough meeting decent single women. Randomly in public seems next to impossible: What would I say, and why shouldn’t she just walk away from the random scary guy hitting on her? I know there are single women out there, but you’d never know it from my friends’ girlfriends. All their friends are dating someone, too! Expatraveler has it right. Stay busy and “something” is sure to happen. (At least, that’s what I keep telling myself.)

For the most part, I don’t mind being single. It has its benefits: Some time ago, I walked through the womens’ shoe department of Macy’s, saw all the miserable looking handbag-holding guys there, and thought “I’m FREE!” Still… the state of singleness is easier to take some times than others, to say the least. I’m sure I’m hardly alone in this.

For your entertainment, I submit the following article:
Where are all the single guys? Jeeze, I could have written it myself, if you switch the genders around. (I love the “conga line” comment, personally.)

By: Marisa

Marisa — Mon, 17 Oct 2005 23:54:00 +0000

I really do enjoy being single. I love not having to tell someone where I’m going or when I’ll be home. It was just the confluence of these three events, along with attending a wedding that made singledom a little less appealing.

By: albert

albert — Mon, 17 Oct 2005 23:03:00 +0000

his first words were “i have a girlfriend now”?!?! wha?! how defensive is that! i think he’s pissed he lost you. ain’t nothing wrong with being single - live it up! that is, unless you’re a 40 year old woman, then, you morph into an “old hag” whereas a 40 year old single guy is living in “bachelorhood” riiight.