Comments on: A Romantic I’m Not http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/ Food, family and synchronicity, in mostly equal parts Thu, 29 Jul 2010 22:31:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: albert http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-700 albert Thu, 17 Nov 2005 19:17:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-700 not only have i gone out with people via the internets, i used to work for an online dating firm, spring street networks. they did the personals for sites like nerve.com, theonion.com, boston.com to name a few. i was actually the account manager for philly mag and city paper awhiles back. i met a nice girl about 3 years ago via ssn. i moved to philly with her and now we live together. i had two not so hot experiences via dating online, but what the hell did i care, i was using the system for free! not only have i gone out with people via the internets, i used to work for an online dating firm, spring street networks. they did the personals for sites like nerve.com, theonion.com, boston.com to name a few. i was actually the account manager for philly mag and city paper awhiles back.

i met a nice girl about 3 years ago via ssn. i moved to philly with her and now we live together.

i had two not so hot experiences via dating online, but what the hell did i care, i was using the system for free!

]]> By: Melissa http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-699 Melissa Tue, 15 Nov 2005 07:36:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-699 I'm all for internet dating. A relatively recent 4 1/2 year relationship came from the internet, as did a recent dating experience. Here's the only problem, as a friend of mine used to say, "all men (over a certain age) have baggage, you just have to decide whether you can handle a steamer trunk or a carry on bag". I think she's right. All the single guys I meet have issues. Good Luck and if you go out with the guy who just propositioned you in a previous comment, let us know how it works out. I’m all for internet dating. A relatively recent 4 1/2 year relationship came from the internet, as did a recent dating experience. Here’s the only problem, as a friend of mine used to say, “all men (over a certain age) have baggage, you just have to decide whether you can handle a steamer trunk or a carry on bag”. I think she’s right. All the single guys I meet have issues.

Good Luck and if you go out with the guy who just propositioned you in a previous comment, let us know how it works out.

]]> By: aasmodeus http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-698 aasmodeus Mon, 14 Nov 2005 07:38:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-698 Just discussing online dating with a friend tonight. She mentioned not liking what she's experienced so far with match.com and e-harmony, and her sister-in-law mentioned to her the professionals dating service, It's Just Lunch. They're advertised a lot in the city paper and philly weekly. ... perhaps? Just discussing online dating with a friend tonight. She mentioned not liking what she’s experienced so far with match.com and e-harmony, and her sister-in-law mentioned to her the professionals dating service, It’s Just Lunch. They’re advertised a lot in the city paper and philly weekly.

… perhaps?

]]> By: Marisa http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-697 Marisa Mon, 14 Nov 2005 04:48:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-697 Interesting. I've never been asked out via blog before. Interesting. I’ve never been asked out via blog before.

]]> By: Karla http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-696 Karla Sun, 13 Nov 2005 19:04:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-696 Goldfish creep me out too. Little buggers just look shifty, like they're plotting to overthrow the government. Plus, they swim around in their own shit. Goldfish creep me out too. Little buggers just look shifty, like they’re plotting to overthrow the government.

Plus, they swim around in their own shit.

]]> By: Marc http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-695 Marc Sun, 13 Nov 2005 08:48:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-695 Hmm..., internet dating. I've never fully tried it. I've met people through people who do internet dating (huh?). I guess it's hard to get the feeling of some one when it's all pixels and electrons. But it also sounds like you've just met some guys that aren't a good match. I'm sure there's someone out there for you. You sound fun, intellegent and seem to have a good sense of humor. Heck, I'm single. Why aren't I asking you out?? (I think I just did!) Best of luck! <a HREF="http://www.manrilla.net/blog/" rel="nofollow">Blog</A> <a HREF="http://www.marcmanleyphoto.com/" rel="nofollow">M2/P</A> Hmm…, internet dating. I’ve never fully tried it. I’ve met people through people who do internet dating (huh?). I guess it’s hard to get the feeling of some one when it’s all pixels and electrons. But it also sounds like you’ve just met some guys that aren’t a good match. I’m sure there’s someone out there for you. You sound fun, intellegent and seem to have a good sense of humor. Heck, I’m single. Why aren’t I asking you out?? (I think I just did!) Best of luck!

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]]> By: Dodi http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-694 Dodi Fri, 11 Nov 2005 22:35:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-694 I'm ten years older than you so I don't know as many people who've used internet dating, but the ones who have are finding what they look for. As long as you're willing to kiss a lot of frogs along the way I think it's a good way to meet people. I have several married friends who met their spouse through internet dating. I'm not at a point where I want to date right now, but I think I might still be more comfortable meeting someone through regular channels (i.e. set ups from friends, common interests). Please post about your experiences. I’m ten years older than you so I don’t know as many people who’ve used internet dating, but the ones who have are finding what they look for. As long as you’re willing to kiss a lot of frogs along the way I think it’s a good way to meet people. I have several married friends who met their spouse through internet dating.

I’m not at a point where I want to date right now, but I think I might still be more comfortable meeting someone through regular channels (i.e. set ups from friends, common interests).

Please post about your experiences.

]]> By: aasmodeus http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-692 aasmodeus Fri, 11 Nov 2005 21:10:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-692 ... or perhaps they look different when you first meet them, and you may be turned off by what you see at first. Possible... I know there were a bunch of girls in college who would probably have gone out with me (and had a great time) if I'd dared talk to them like a friend -- but they were strangers and I was uncomfortable, so I'm sure I presented a horrible scene which helped steer them away. I was actually thought gay by an entire group of girls simply because I'd never asked any of them out. Pffft. Good luck Marisa, I'm sure you'll find someone deserving and worthy if you put your mind and heart in it (and really believe you are ready to try dating again). I say that with deep belief because in this upcoming age range you'll find a larger probability of guys who have matured past a certain barrier: the "romance and magic" era of their life has been appropriately coloured by rich hues of temperance, patience, and experience. … or perhaps they look different when you first meet them, and you may be turned off by what you see at first.

Possible…

I know there were a bunch of girls in college who would probably have gone out with me (and had a great time) if I’d dared talk to them like a friend — but they were strangers and I was uncomfortable, so I’m sure I presented a horrible scene which helped steer them away.

I was actually thought gay by an entire group of girls simply because I’d never asked any of them out. Pffft.

Good luck Marisa, I’m sure you’ll find someone deserving and worthy if you put your mind and heart in it (and really believe you are ready to try dating again). I say that with deep belief because in this upcoming age range you’ll find a larger probability of guys who have matured past a certain barrier: the “romance and magic” era of their life has been appropriately coloured by rich hues of temperance, patience, and experience.

]]> By: ajayi http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-693 ajayi Fri, 11 Nov 2005 21:10:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-693 The women I meet online I thought were all great. I was of the mindset to meet and go out with however many dates it took to find someone that I could connect with and go from there. It didn't work out with most of them, but I never had the expectation that it would. Reports of romantic gestures dying might be premature. But it might be on ‘life support,’ given their apparent rarity. People expectations are so high these days that it almost seems impossible to go on a date and laugh. 'This is a date after all, we should be taking this serious and quickly ascertain whether we are compatible or not.' Unfortunately, men should not be waiting for the right moment because that will never come. They should take the moment they (we) have now and be sure to laugh about it. The women I meet online I thought were all great. I was of the mindset to meet and go out with however many dates it took to find someone that I could connect with and go from there. It didn’t work out with most of them, but I never had the expectation that it would. Reports of romantic gestures dying might be premature. But it might be on ‘life support,’ given their apparent rarity.

People expectations are so high these days that it almost seems impossible to go on a date and laugh. ‘This is a date after all, we should be taking this serious and quickly ascertain whether we are compatible or not.’ Unfortunately, men should not be waiting for the right moment because that will never come. They should take the moment they (we) have now and be sure to laugh about it.

]]> By: Luna http://www.apartment2024.com/2005/11/10/a-romantic-im-not/comment-page-1/#comment-691 Luna Fri, 11 Nov 2005 16:32:00 +0000 http://www.apartment2024.com/?p=237#comment-691 See same thing here. I'm looking for something realistic and I guess they're all looking for a mix of Mother Theresa and Angelina Jolie. Why is it so hard to find a guy who will easily laugh with me, (I like that about them eating the leftovers) and who won't make constant fun of where I come from. Someone who won't constantly point out that he's better than anyone and who will be patient. Perhaps someone who won't refuse my hugs and who will open the doors for me (that's the limit of my romantic stuff, I love the lightbulb story. very nice!!) Perhaps realistic men just don't exist any more? perhaps they're just hiding, observing and waiting to come out at the right moment? I hope it's the second :-) See same thing here. I’m looking for something realistic and I guess they’re all looking for a mix of Mother Theresa and Angelina Jolie.

Why is it so hard to find a guy who will easily laugh with me, (I like that about them eating the leftovers) and who won’t make constant fun of where I come from. Someone who won’t constantly point out that he’s better than anyone and who will be patient.

Perhaps someone who won’t refuse my hugs and who will open the doors for me (that’s the limit of my romantic stuff, I love the lightbulb story. very nice!!)

Perhaps realistic men just don’t exist any more? perhaps they’re just hiding, observing and waiting to come out at the right moment? I hope it’s the second :-)

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