Comments on: Sad

By: Katey Schultz

Katey Schultz — Thu, 29 Dec 2005 06:39:00 +0000

hey-
just catching up on your blogs here. the thing that struck me about our talks at the reunion was how eager you were to talk about writing, and how now we’ve found we have this wonderful thing in common. if you haven’t herad of it before, you NEED TO SIGN UP FOR THE ARTIST’S WAY COURSE. seriously, it’ll change your life. that’s what finally helped me leave my job and tackle the writing life. you’re right, it’s not easy - but neither is doing work you DON’T love. anyway, hang in there. and if you want to know more about the course, i’ll fill you in.
~kt

By: Scott

Scott — Sun, 25 Dec 2005 02:17:00 +0000

I was in a job that I didn’t like at all for about 3.5 years (though I didn’t realize how much I didn’t like it until I started a much better job.. odd, huh?) and it really changed my personality. I wasn’t as much fun to be with and I was generally not in a good place.

It is tough to be in a job that you don’t think is a good match, but as others have said you are much more than your job. You define your job, your job doesn’t define you.

Trust your Uncle Scottycakes.

Ok, that just made this comment a little too creepy, even for me.

By: isadora

isadora — Sat, 24 Dec 2005 06:50:00 +0000

Oh my gosh!
To err is human! THere’s a reason that phrase is cliche. Although if you’re not happy in your job that’s a whole ‘nother story. you’ll get there, I know! Can’t wait to see you. Love your blog!

By: Marisa

Marisa — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 22:10:00 +0000

Thank you all for all you’ve said. I’ve reread the comments about four times now, trying to soak it all in.

Hey Luna, I wasn’t checking my work email, she actually emailed me on my personal account.

By: christian

christian — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 21:07:00 +0000

change is always good and maybe it’s time to grab a fistfull of it. You know that if you dedicated yourself to your job then you would excell at it. It’s all about the journey and not so much where you end up. You said that to me in Rittenhouse. I think it’s time to watch What the Bleep…or reread the Alchemist and regroup. The truth is that if you really want to write for a living then you will, and if you dedicate yourself to it the universe will conspire to let you in the door. The rest is up to you. Have a great holiday, Marisa, and enjoy the left the coast.

-Christian

By: tinapopo

tinapopo — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 20:44:00 +0000

Marisa, your post made me so sad. I know how you feel, and I’m not just saying that to sound empathetic. I work in IT, but didn’t go to school for it. I’m learning it as I go, and I’ve gotten pretty good, but I’m no network analyst. I like it, but there are times when it’s rough, particularly when major things happen like network crashes, etc. I’m constantly being told by our tech vendors that our company should hire a “real IT person,” which in all honesty — they probably should. But for now, I’m all they’ve got. And those comments don’t help with my morale.

It’s just a job, but it’s something you spend a lot of time doing, and even more time thinking about. If it’s hurting you this much, maybe it’s time to move on. I know that’s easier said than done, but sometimes it’s worth the leap.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 19:37:00 +0000

Others have touched on it but I want to reinforce that you have so much other stuff to focus on besides your job. Your job right now is just a place you spend time, your life is everything else, and that is where the good stuff is. I am glad you have your mom there with you, accept no subtitutes at times like these.

By: aasmodeus

aasmodeus — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 17:24:00 +0000

that was freaky. melissa and i posting the same thing about good fit. at the same time (i was typing mine still and didn’t see hers).

and then the peg thing. and she’s forever square.
coincidence? dun dun dunnnnnnnnnn.

see you in the new year marisa. remember, it takes work to keep this outlook alive. one day at a time, one prayer at a time. it’ll get easier to remind yourself of who you are and what you’re here for and what’s important in life. then it’ll get easier to shift focus away from those distractions which bring you down.

By: aasmodeus

aasmodeus — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 17:19:00 +0000

Merry Christmas Baby, you surely treat (us) nice — Springsteen

job != life

you have done some wonderful things with a wonderful group that we know. that is more than i can say of many people and it is now obvious to me that what you’ve done and continue to do is more important than you realize.

job != life

what will you end up with at the end of your life? recollections of how well you submitted form ab to apply for grant gx in order to get research vc done? or the beautiful friends and family who love you for who you are and how you’ve treated them and are there to support you and will remember you fondly whenever you’re not with them and rekindle your spirit again and again? my job and money don’t seem to do that for me, ever. i’m just sayin’.

job != life

if you’re not doing well at one job, and you’ve been trying really hard, then perhaps it’s not a good fit. that doesn’t mean it’s your fault that it’s not a good fit and that no other job will ever be a good fit because you are the oddball peg that matches no shaped hole in existence. it’s just not a good fit.

I just wanna say … merry Christmas baby
And happy new year too

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 17:10:00 +0000

Hon, don’t let yourself get too upset by this. It might not be a good job fit, but it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. If you work in the corporate world, I can tell you from my own experience, there is little allowance for the differences between people. I’m not a perfectionist either and sometimes it’s very hard to work in a world of them. But you’re young and you will definitely find a job that fits you (the way you are).

Next meetup we really do need to sit closer to each other so we can actually chat.

Have a wonderful holiday time at home!