Scott and I got married to one another on Saturday, September 26th. It was an amazing day and while the weather wasn’t quite as warm as I would have liked, the rain held off until just after we finished cleaning up. The food our friends and family brought to share was delicious, the cakes that I made were perfect and people had a really good time.
One of our goals with this wedding was to keep the ceremony portion short, as we were asking people to stand for it. So we kept our vows brief, funny and to the point. Here’s what we said to each other.
Marisa, to Scott
For the years that we were nothing more than friends, I swore up and down to anyone who would listen that you were not the man for me. It wasn’t until you started dating someone else that I realized how deeply I adored you (despite the fact that you didn’t have a driver’s license and that you are undeniably a picky eater). Now, I can’t imagine my life without you.
Scott, I am delighted to be marrying you today, and I vow to you to love you for the rest of my life, even when you’re painfully stubborn, when you turn up your nose at my sautéed string beans or when you fling your dirty socks across the room. I promise to support your dreams and will never stop encouraging you to write those novels we all know are in you. I promise to respect your Star Trek cards, weekly D & D dates and general geekery, and appreciate your similar courtesy for my jars, cookbooks and sundry kitchen implements.
Scott, I vow to give you the quiet time you need and to be the one in our relationship who deals with the minutia of daily living. I solemnly swear that I’ll never stop laughing, even if things get momentarily grim. And most of all, I vow to always embrace your whimsy, your humor and all your wacky charms.
You are my person, my favorite boy and I love you with all I’ve got.
Scott, to Marisa
If you asked me 10 years ago, or even 3 years ago, if I would be getting married to a hippie, at a potluck wedding officiated by a lesbian I would have laughed at you. And yet, here we are and words can’t express how happy I am. Funny how life works, isn’t it?
Marisa, you and I are complete opposites in many ways. I’m tall, you’re short. I hardly know what day of the week it is, you’re always on top of the details. I’m funny and you’re… well maybe we can move on.
Marisa, I vow to do as I am told most of the time. I promise to not make your life any more difficult than I normally do. I promise to talk you through moments of panic and anxiety with a smile and love in my heart. I vow to at least try and express my feelings more than fortnightly, and above all else I promise to be your partner in all of life’s adventures and misfortunes.
You are the love of my life, the reason I wake up in the morning, the spring in my step, and I can’t imagine life without you.